A new idea that is working for a lot of couples is having a "Relationship Contract". The contract consists of your significant other's "Desires" and "Pet Peeves" and if the terms are broken you have to relook at your relationship.
It's kind of like a dating Prenup, which can consist of:
- Intimacy goals
- Off-limits fighting strategy
- None negotiable personal quirks
Couples who believe in these contracts say they encourage rational boundary setting, fair fighting and compromise.