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Marriage counselor reveals 12 questions all couples should be able to answer

Marriage counselor reveals 12 questions all couples should be able to answer
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Jeff Guenther, a marriage counselor from Portland, Oregon, has revealed the 12 'basic' things all couples should know about each other six months into a relationship.

According to a video shared on TikTok (which has since gone viral), Guenther says he believes the 12 questions are important to discuss with a partner before committing to them.

Here are Jeff’s 12 questions:

1. What makes them laugh or cry?

2. What are they passionate about?

3. How did their family affect their growth?

4. What makes them mad?

5. Do they have spiritual beliefs and how do they affect their life choices?

6. What are their defining moments?

7. What is the most important to them?

8. How would they define success?

9. What kind of support do they need when they're stressed or sad?

10. What are they the proudest of about themselves?

11. What can instantly light them up inside?

12. How do they recharge their emotional batteries?


The video has since been liked more than 1.3 million times on the social media platform with several people chiming in that they did not know how to answer these questions about themselves, let alone their partners.

Jeff tried to reassure his viewers at the start of the video, saying: 'If you don't know these things, don't freak out, just ask each other. As a couple's counselor, I feel these are important basics that you want to build on as you continue your relationship."

@therapyjeff 12 things you should already know about your partner 6 months into a relationship. #therapy #relationshiptips #love #dating #relationshipadvice ♬ original sound - TherapyJeff
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